When we argue, when we don’t understand each other, we feel far apart. Conversely, we feel great intimacy (and even attraction) when we feel understood and seen.
How can we recreate the connection when we are disconnected?
These one-and-a-half-hour sessions for couples were born from the fusion of several disciplines that I have practiced for about ten years, both in my private life and in my practice, particularly during case history taking:
- Mindfulness to observe and name our physical sensations, our emotions, and our thoughts (‘the stories we tell ourselves’);
- Empathetic communication to open the space to the other through the use of tools such as active listening and reformulation;
- The phrasing of unmet needs that provoke our emotions, thanks to the wheel of needs and the wheel of emotions;
- Negotiation of a solution that meets the needs of both partners through a game of listening and rephrasing;
- A very simple physical reconnection in which each person rediscovers the place of connection with the other.
The sessions start with very simple mindfulness practices, using small everyday conflicts as examples. This is not couple therapy but rather the learning of tools that allow for a deeper flow of communication.
